Before I went back to work, I felt that I need to train Ian to sleep through the night. Because I can't get up to feed him 2-3 timces a night any more. So instead of feeding him on demand, I want to feed him on schedule. A friend mentioned " Dr. Denmark said it!" to me. She said she was able to train her baby to sleep through the night by one month old because of this book. So I decided to look for the information on line. After reading the book, I decided to do what the book taught. So Ian can learn to sleep through the night without feeding.
These are what I've learned from the book:
從奕凱出生以後，我一直都是寶寶想喝ㄋㄟㄋㄟ就餵他，完全按照他的時間表，但是我覺得在我回去上班之前，我應該要訓練他按照我給他的作息表喝ㄋㄟㄋㄟ，有朋友建議我看這本書"百歲醫生的育兒寶典"，因為她就是看了這本書之後，訓練她的寶寶在1個月大時就能睡過夜而不夜奶，所以我開始上網查資料，以下是我看了許多媽媽們的分享，所得到的摘要：
1. Let baby sleep in his own bed in his own room. Start training him to sleep by his own since he was born. So he can sleep through the night without feeding by 6 weeks old. 讓寶寶從出生後就睡自己的床，訓練自然入睡。在寶寶六週大時，就能夠一覺到天明。
We put Ian to sleep on our bed at the first 2 weeks. We enjoy the close feeling that we share with one another. But the problem is---I can't sleep well while he was sleeping with us. Because I'm so afraid that we are going to squeeze him. So I woke up several time a night to check on him. Then we put him the the bassinet in our room. That's better. But we decided to move him to his crib in his room when he started to make a lot of noises. He did great sleeping in his own room. So I really didn't have problem in this part.
前2星期我們把奕凱放在床上和我們同睡，我們很享受那種親密感，但是問題是--我睡不好！因為擔心會壓到奕凱，所以一晚上要起來好幾次看看他是不是安好。第3,4星期，我們讓他睡在我們房間內的小床，但是，他發出越來越多的聲音，到了滿月，我們就把奕凱移到他房間的小床去睡了。所以這一點對我們來說不是問題。
2. Scheduled and routine. Scheduled feeding. Feed baby according to the schedule, once every 4 hours. Never feed him whenever he is crying..
餵奶按照固定的作息時間表，按照每四小時的時間餵奶,切忌一哭鬧就餵.。
I started to trian Ian 3 days before I went back to work which is 3 days before he was 6 weeks old. Ian still got up 1-2 times a night to feed. It's not bad. But I need to be at work at 6:00 am. So I need to have enough sleep at night. So I decided to do this. Actually, Ian took the scheduled feeding very well. He usually eats about every 3-4 hours. So this is not a problem,either.
我在奕凱滿6週前的3天開始訓練他，因為3天後我就要回去工作。奕凱仍然一個晚上要起來喝1-2次的ㄋㄟㄋㄟ，其實還好。但是因為我的工作時間是早上6點，所以需要充足的睡眠，所以決定開始訓練他。事實上，他還蠻快適應新的餵奶作息表，所以這也不是問題。
3. Follow the routine: " Feeding-Playing-Sleeping" . Don't let baby fall asleep while feeding. Feed the baby in a noisy room. Take off some of his clothes to keep him awake when nursing. Use a wet rag to dab at his cheeks or feet so he keeps awake. Try to get in a good feeding. As the baby gets older, he should stay awake longer and longer to feed. After feeding, play with him for 15 minutes. Even if he seems like he's asleep, then keep him in the noisy room for at least 15 minutes.Then put him in his own bed in his own room to sleep. When it's sleep time, just make sure he's well burped and his diaper is clean, then put him down in his own bed. Then close the door and do NOT stand outside the room to listen to him cry. Do not go inside the room to look at him. He will be fine. He is just angry that you are not holding him. Being angry is fine. He will not hurt himself. Do this for two weeks. Do not pick him up until close to the next feeding time. If you do this every day every time, then your baby will be trained in less than two weeks. And you will have a new life. But if you are not consistent, it will take longer and you will become more tired. It is most important to be CONSISTENT. It's ok for him to cry. Crying is a good way to exercise his lung.
努力遵循「餵奶－玩耍－睡覺」的模式，勿讓寶寶吃奶吃到睡著。在吵雜的房間餵他.幫他脫衣服讓他在餵奶時保持清醒.用溼毛巾輕拍他的臉頰或腳,使他清醒.保持固定的餵奶時間.當寶寶越大時,他保持清醒的時間也越長,而且可以拉長下次餵奶的時間.餵完奶後,和他玩15分鐘.假使他看起來已經睡著了,把他放在吵雜的房間至少15分鐘。讓他在自己的房間,自己的床睡覺.當是睡覺時間,確定他已經打嗝,尿布也乾淨,然後放在他自己的床.接著關門離開.絕對不要站在房門口聽他哭.絕不要進房間看看他.他會沒事的.他只是生氣你沒抱著他.讓他生氣沒關係.他不會受傷的.照著這樣做二星期.在下次餵奶前都不要抱起他.如果你每天每次都這樣做,不到二星期的時間,你的寶寶會被訓練成功.你會有新的生活.但你若不一致,你會花更多的時間,你也會更累.最重要的事情是要一致!「妳今天不讓寶寶哭，寶寶明天就讓妳哭」──適當的哭可以訓練寶寶的心肺功能及性情。
This is the hardest part of all. How to train him to fall sleep by his own without padding and rocking? The first night, I put him down after the last feeding. He cried for 20 minutes and fell asleep. It's really hard for Pat to try not to go into his room to get him and let him cried. I told Pat what said in the book:
"Do NOT stand outside the room to listen to him cry. Do not go inside the room to look at him. He will be fine. He is just angry that you are not holding him."
Because I had the experience when I babysit Kate. I can handle this better than him. Melissa told me the same thing. Just let her cry. If she is still crying after 20 mins, you can get her out. So I told Pat to give Ian 20 mins. If he's still crying after 20 mins, you can go get him out. Ian fell asleep before we get into his room. The 2nd night, he cried for 5 mins. The 3rd night, he didn't even cried. He only "awhh, awhh" couple times and fell asleep.It only took 3 days to work. It's amazing how did this work.
這是最困難的部分，要怎麼訓練他自然入睡而不用哄他搖他呢？開始訓練的第一天晚上，我餵完奶後就把他放入他的小床，他哭了20分鐘才入睡。最困難的不是聽他哭，而是阻止爸比進去抱他出來，因為我有之前當保母的經驗，所以我忍的住不去抱他出來哄他，可是可憐的爸比沒有經驗，所以他一哭，爸比就心疼的很，馬上要去抱他出來，我一直拉著他，所以他不會衝進去。要他也不要站在門口聽他哭。我告訴爸比給凱凱20分鐘，如果過了20分鐘他還是在哭的話，再去抱他出來。凱凱在我們進去抱他出來前就睡著了。第二天晚上，他只哭了5分鐘，第三天晚上，他連哭都不哭了，只哼哼哈哈了幾聲就睡著了。真是神奇阿，只試了3天就成功了！
"Don't let baby fall asleep while feeding." I order to follow this rule, we tried really hard to keep him awake during feeding. I use cold towels to wipe his face and body, tickle him and so on.Make sure he had enough before put him down to bed.
為了遵循"勿讓寶寶吃奶吃到睡著"的原則，我們試了各種讓他保持清醒得辦法，像是用濕毛巾拍他的臉和身體，搔他腳底，脖子，手心，確認他在睡覺前喝足了ㄋㄟㄋㄟ，才放他去小床睡。
The" Feeding-Playing-Sleeping" routine makes perfect sence. Because Ian gets tired 1.5 hrs after he got up. So he gets up and breastfeeds, play for half an hour and then put him down for nap. He usually takes 1 hour to breastfeed, play for half an hour and take a nap for 2-2.5 hours. It is a perfect cycle.
"餵奶－玩耍－睡覺"的模式實在是太棒了。凱凱通常起來1.5小時之後就又覺得累要午睡了，所以他喝玩ㄋㄟㄋㄟ後(要1小時)，玩個30分鐘，在去睡個2-2.5小時的午覺，剛剛好是4個小時的循環。
到目前為止，訓練奕凱的方式---成功！下次在談戒夜奶的情況囉！
Overall, Ian's training is successful!!
Ian loves to take a bath. He never cries when he took a bath. Instead, he enjoys taking every single bath. The first time when we put him in his little baby bath tub, we were afraid if he will cry. NO. He looked around the whole time and felt curious about this new activity.
